Quote Originally Posted by saxandpipes View Post
True, but it's one thing to consider being thought of as gay (when you're not) as simply an insult. It's another to know that something you are is generally considered to be an insult.

When someone asks a straight kilt-wearing man if he's gay, he can simply say no, and inform the protagonist that they are being rude (in what ever manner they feel is deserving). A gay kilt-wearing man dealing with the same question... "well, yes, aah er, no, well, that has nothing to do with it..."

All I want is for people to stop thinking that gay people are so different...
I'm sorry that you have to suffer that. Not all gay people act a certain way. However, there are many gay people portrayed in media as hyper-emotional, effeminate, "flamboyant", etc. This is done through Glee, reality TV shows, the old Will and Grace show, etc. etc. That is the popular image of the "gay man" in most people's minds. If someone asks a man if they're gay, then their mind often goes to the "what am I doing to project that image?", "What is keeping me from exuding masculinity?" Which, while I understand the fact that this sort of thinking is the case bothers and upsets you, I think it's nevertheless accurate. When I guy has to answer his internal questions with the kilt, he has to also ask if it's just because the kilt is akin to a skirt, or if it's because of something else--in this case media portrayal.
Now really, I doubt that Kurt wearing a kilt on Glee is going to do this single-handedly. But kilties will still wonder.

So really, if I'm asked if I'm gay, it's not as simple as just responding "no". Besides, how many people really come up and ask people questions like that?