My father wore the kilt as a young man and when older. I only remember him wearing it with tweed, never with a black, silver-buttoned jacket or doublet. It was worn for smart day-time events in Scotland, England and France. I and my cousins grew up wearing kilts from an early age. I don't remember any explicit instructions, it was more like an implicit cultural transmission of how it was done but guess there must have been some gentle correction of any blatant faux pas.

In day-wear I dress much as my father did and have added morning dress and evening doublets to the wardrobe.

My son also favours tweed with the kilt for smart day-time events and dresses in almost every respect as his grandfather did and I do. He does wear tan rather than black shoes. However, he also wears the kilt with casual shirts and trainers for events like barbecues and informal ceilidhs.

My Welsh-Scottish grandson at age three wears the kilt to weddings and Hogmanay parties, made from material recycled from one of my old kilts. So from an early age he identifies with other kilted men in the family.