A decision has been made...

[dana]

Dana,

I understand completely the decision you have made, and I salute you for it. You are the epitome of a gentleman.

I hope you will still come to St. Charles so we can meet "in person"!

Cheers,

Todd

Thanks Todd for your support.
I don't know if I'll make it to St. Charles or not. Obviously I won't be wearing a kilt, but I still would like to come and meet you. I don't think she'll object to that. I hope people don't have a lowered view of my wife just because she doesn't like kilts, she really is a great woman.

dana

[Big Paul]

WOW, that stinks.... But I think you are making the right decision. I wish you the best of luck.

[bubba]

dana, sorry to hear that, but that's life. People all have different feelings on just about everything. Your wife has no tolerance for you in kilts. That doesn't mean she's not a nice person otherwise, it's just a limit on her comfort zone. That doesn't mean you need to leave the board and avoid the group yourself. You can still enjoy it vicariously and have fun chatting with the boys.

[elkdoc]

Another vote of encouragement here. You definately are doing the right thing. Marriages are about compromise and sacrifice, and the rewards are astounding.

Too bad my butt's bigger than yours. The St. Paddy's would make a great first kilt for me!

I would like to add another thing, though. I think that as an admirer of kilts you should stay on board here. No need to cut the webs you've spun thus far. I may be new here but I doubt very seriously if anyone minds you staying because you dig kilts. Think about it, and I hope to see you around!

[Freelander Sporrano]

Boy Im sorry that you are leaving us Dana . I don't no what to say..

Thank-you for your very kind comments yesterday.

Maybe one day your wife will give in ....

PS I'm Catholic. However I'm no Schoolgirl

Maybe some of the things we chatted about last night will help in the long run. Don't sell your kilts just yet.

What ever you decide ....Keep well

[Pittsburgh Kilts]

Man, you are one supportive group. Personally, this is the crazyiest thing I ever heard. Isn't the whole idea of the kilts about expressing your own individuallity? I mean, god bless you for living for 25 years with someone who is so controlling that they feel the need to select your clothing for you, but come on!

I think if you get a little more airflow to your bollocks, they'll grow!

(sorry to be the evil one here. someone had to do it.)

Jeff

[Jimmy Carbomb]

Dana... that's tough man, but there's more to life than clothing.


You know, of course, that you can STILL come to XMarks and chat with us. There's always guys that come on here to see what's going on and spend some time with friends. There's also a lot of discussion about music, festivals, culture and "off topic" subjects. This is more than just kilts... it's a cultural center.

To many of us, educated supporters are even more important than kilt-wearing pretenders. It's a fine distinction that you've earned.

[dana]

Man, you are one supportive group. Personally, this is the crazyiest thing I ever heard. Isn't the whole idea of the kilts about expressing your own individuallity? I mean, god bless you for living for 25 years with someone who is so controlling that they feel the need to select your clothing for you, but come on!

I think if you get a little more airflow to your bollocks, they'll grow!

(sorry to be the evil one here. someone had to do it.)

Jeff

Hi Jeff,

I'm sorry you feel that way. It isn't about controlling, it's about mutual respect. I'm sure I can express my individuallity some other way besides wearing a kilt, one that won't damage the relationship with my wife.

Even sadder than my not wearing the kilt, is someone imposing their will on someone else without reguard for their feelings.

Btw, my "bollocks" are just fine.

Good luck in your business, I wish you great success.

dana

[Colin]

Sorry to hear about your decision Dana, but being a married man, I understand compromise all to well. I hope you will stick around and enjoy the company. I also hope that you will not rule out any local Celtic festivals, as they can be a great time (kilted or not). It's toobad we couldn't come up with any solutions for you yesterday in the chat room.

Anyway, stick around.

[Mychael Sporrano]

I think if you get a little more airflow to your bollocks, they'll grow!
(sorry to be the evil one here. someone had to do it.)

Ouch, Mr. Jeff !

Personally, I am saddened with situations such as this where one member of a partnership doesn't feel comfortable following their heart when the matter at hand is one that is entirely practical. That said, relationships by nature are delicate constructs, usually requiring diplomacy and a great deal of give and take in order to thrive. Dana's decision to forgo the wearing [or even possession of]kilts seems to be an area where he has decided to give. Let us hope that he manages to get get something in return.

It sonds as though you at least gave it a good shot, Dana. Hope to see you here again someday.


Mychael