Darrell,

My prayers to you and your family. May your FIL get better or pass on in peace and not suffering. Asking your wife her opinion is the best approach.

One point I did not mention was that I had not told my wife that I packed both the kilt and suit. I told her today, and she felt much better that I was cognizant of others feelings and had verified before the service that the kilt would not be a problem.

Verlyn, that is a great tribute! I agree that the service should be a celebration of the life of the person who has passed and not a restricted dress code fashion show (is that too harsh?).