She may be a keeper...

[Mr. MacDougall]

As a long-time member of the Divorced Club for Men, my advice is to take a couple of days to wallow, and then move on. Maybe you'll find someone else; maybe you won't. It's not such a horrible thing to be single, and I'm in a position to know. You think, right now, that it's the end of the world, but it ain't.

[acstoon]

I feel for you.
Been there, too... after ten years of marriage & one beautiful daughter.
Go ahead and cry about it... it's OK to grieve over the loss of a relationship.
I know you will hear many "it'll get better" remarks... but it's true.

In a way, you've been handed a great opportunity: When you are ready, take time, at this point, to re-evaluate every aspect of your life. Make realistic adjustments where you see fit. You'll come out of this WAY ahead, in the long run. Was the best thing that happened to me... I was (eventually) able to truly relax and enjoy life. Once you get to that point, the rest is easy.

[turpin]

Anything I might say has already been said, Charles. I'm sorry for your loss.

turpin

[Erisianmonkey]

Thanks for the support gentlemen. I'd been crying at the drop of a hat since she announced it. About two hours ago, she came to me and we sat down and talked. I'm confused, but we're seemingly going to work it out. We talked about things that we need to work on in our relationship if we're going to stay together, and well, that's as much detail as I'll go into about it on a public forum.

I will say that there's some trepidation mixed in with the joy that we're still together. A certain sense of less trust. I'm hoping that will heal. I'm still going to be a bit more scarce than I have been lately, as I have some other things I need to take care of, like a kilt that's almost finished. (my first kilt with pockets. 8 of them, made with several different techniques. It's my "pocket prototype" kilt.)


Relieved, confused, still wounded, but hopefully healing both my self and my marriage, and building a couple of kilts at the same time. Life is a rollercoaster.

[Jock Scot]

Good luck to you both."when the going gets tough,the tough get going."

[acstoon]

.double post...oops

[acstoon]

Best of luck to you both.
Luckily, it sounds like you both kept civil heads, regarding this matter. Good for you.
Running the full gamut of emotions is quite expected, at this juncture... as you stated, life can be a rollercoaster. You now have a choice...
you can ride this rollercoaster in trepidation, fear & nausea,
or,
embrace the thrill and get the most out of it.

Take care.

[Arlen]

*Hugs*
Here's wishing you all the luck that I can give.
Good relationships sometime take hard work.
What's for you will not pass by you.

[CaberDave]

Hope all works out for you and your wife.

[Macman]

I hope things work out for the best for you, whichever way that is. Sometimes it's hard to know, especially when you're on that rollercoaster. Take care of yourself.