Wife does not like me in a kilt

[biblemonkey]

that will get you killed

Communication is key. If you told your wife that you liked kilts and wanted to wear them without reason and you don't appreciate her wise **** remarks. She may ease up. She doesn't need to love what you wear but women are pretty good at being compassionate. And like was said above she will see the other women paying you attention and that may get her more hot on kilts.

I agree. I got off easy in this respect as my wife understands my obsession and though doesn't particularly care for the kilt, doesn't care what I wear in most cases. She has also grudgingly admitted that I look good in it. Maybe try dressing it up a tad in a semi-casual way like I did in my Christmas pics. It got alot of people on my side who were on the fence about it.

Good luck,
Hugh

[sydnie7]

There are several long threads along this line on the forum. Not sure what the best search term would be (I'd start with "wife" and see what happens) but worth seeing how others have asked and had the question addressed.

Comes down to mutual respect and willingness to compromise -- on both sides. Alan H's posts are particularly insightful.

[auld argonian]

If you have this new streaming video thing like netflix, start watching Monarch Of The Glen...after seeing Duncan, Gollie and Archie in kilts, she'll think twice.

....of course when she sees Hector and Kilwillie in kilts, she may re-reconsider...

Be sure that you have your kilted look together...my tip...no substitute for a kilt that fits well, good kilt hose, belt, sporran, etc. You can do this on a budget, of course, but by all means be sure that you've tightened up your look...that really helps put it over. Maybe try flipping through the forum here and finding pictures of well put together outfits and then show her and ask her opinion...? If she has some input, it might persuade her...?

Best

AA

[Fitzy]

I say reverse the tables, but in a more respectful way. Ask her how she would feel if you has said the same thing about some of her clothing that she likes to wear.

Failing that,..i can recommend a good divorce lawyer.

Paul

[bman]

I can't say much. One of the reasons On divorced was her inability to accept compromises unless I was the one compromising.

I would try explaining why you like kilts and how much you would love her support just like I am sure you support her in things you may not like.

or tell your wearing it and you don't care what she says...

[BroosterB1]

Mine has some of the same reservations. Thought I stood out too much, thought I got too much attention, thought it was just plain weird.

So what, I like wearing kilts. I do pay attention to her feelings and will not automaticly put on a kilt if I think she is going to have an issue, but in the same respect, unless she gives up on what she thinks I "should" do or be I could never truley be myself.

Either your wife respects and honors you, your choices, feelings and beliefs or she insists that it "is all about her". If the former, compromise is essential. If the later, good luck cause the next thing you show interest in will also go down in flames.

Remember the two magic words in a relationship go both ways, she gets to say them too. Instead of rolling her eyes, and making rude comments when you tell her you are kilting up for the day; the apporpriate response is "Yes, Dear".

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[Doc Canary]

As kilt wearers, we subject ourselves to scrutiny from every angle. Although we would appreciate acceptance, most of all from our family, loved ones, and friends, the best we can expect and demand from any individual is tolerance and respect for our choice of dress. I came to this conclusion as a result of being physically assaulted because I was wearing a kilt.
The police became involved and were surprisingly understanding and professional towards my complaint. As a matter of principle, I filed battery charges against the assailant. After further investigation and mediation, the charges were dismissed by the state's attorney office. The outcome was expected, but I deemed it a win due to the guy having to go through the time, expense, a embarrassment of explaining why he was attempting to reach up another guy's kilt to the authorities. That, along with his aquiring two broken fingers during the attempt, equaled justice to me.
A bit off subject, but shows how dislike or misunderstanding can go to the extreme.

[fluter]

If I recall correctly, she's only had a few weeks to get used to the kilt. Don't despair just yet!

Optionally, you can try out the "cross-dressing" crack next time she dons a pair of slacks. On reflection, I'd save that one; but the idea is to let her see how it felt when she hit you with it.

It'd undoubtedly be more adult simply to tell her how it felt. The conventional wisdom is to use "I" statements & make it about how you felt, not about what she did or how she wronged you. If that makes any sense at all.

Mostly, give it time. Let her see some other men in kilts, particularly the heavy athletes!

[Cowher]

The conventional wisdom is to use "I" statements & make it about how you felt, not about what she did or how she wronged you. If that makes any sense at all.

This is good wisdom for anything in marriage. It took me 7 years to learn how to speak in feelings rather than the tangible. Once I learned that marriage got a lot more easy.

[Jack Daw]

Get a Kilt Night Out society going and attend anything else Celtic, and bring the wife along.