Christmas Party for work.

**Meggers** · 19th December 11, 01:01 PM

Oh my...that is not ok. I am completely annoyed by the simple fact that this little punk would say something, not only about someone who is his senior, but also to that persons wife! That is rudeness of the lowest kind. Be thankful that you were brought up to know better and this little sh*t apparently doesn't. That comment only shows his immaturity and lack of respect.

Unfortunately, being 'mean' is the latest thing. Just take a look at what our kids are watching these days. Look at their toys. "Brat" dolls, tv shows were the cool girls are shallow and cruel...even my little sisters fall victim to this sometimes. Being "cool" means being "mean" and it's such a sad sad thing.

**Frank McGrath** · 19th December 11, 05:22 PM

Well, I visited our HR person. Explained what happened. She explained that she must look into the problem. I also explained that the kilt jokes at the party by the pres of company were ok, that I have heard them all before. The operations head had gotten together several kilt jokes and was put off that I wore pants. I told him that I liked the spotlight even though I was not kilted. we laughed and went about our business. But I explained to Hr lady that this kid stepped over the line. She agreed. She is going to bring him in and talk about it. We'll see what happens. Thanks again for the support.

MT4runner.......I still have a sense of humor. I have sone some metal work, but not as a smith. Much too hot.

**guardsman** · 24th December 11, 08:51 AM

ignorance can make some people aggresive. A scared dog is aggresive, bet this guy doesnt have respect of others or many friends . A big daft galloot no less. Best wishes for Christmas, forgive or get even

**Riverkilt** · 24th December 11, 09:04 AM

Was there booze at the party? Some company parties are dry now due to liability issues. If he was drinking he may have just been stupid - booze makes the wisest of us stupid.

He didn't sound like a bully to say it behind your back and in front of your wife, instead of to your face. Remember, some of these "kids" are hollow and scared inside and the bravado is a defense.

Were it me I'd be more inclined to take him aside and deal with it "mano a mano" but don't know the workplace dynamics.

My favorite insult was being at work kilted and a lesbian coworker/counselor looked me up and down and said, "How do you take a shyte in that thing?" Which was ironic since she was wearing a skirt at the time. My response was to remind her I could have her fired for such a comment. Her face flushed and she walked away.

**Frank McGrath** · 25th December 11, 09:19 AM

Update on situation. We pass in the hall and nothing is said. Probably the best thing for both of us. He knows what he did was wrong. The company needs him too much to fire him. Someone would have to be trained to do his job and it would take too long.
If it were up to me to punish him, I would have him wear a kilt to the next function. Maybe his girlfriend would like it. Maybe he would like it. Ne's just a kid with a lot of growing up to do. So it's over until it happens again. TThanks to all for the suggestions and support. I keep that with me.

**Bill aka Mole** · 25th December 11, 04:41 PM

While the company may need him, which is more expensive: replacing him or settling a lawsuit for lack of action on a reported hostile environment? A question that might asked of an HR person. Just thinking out loud, per se.

**sevenoaks** · 26th December 11, 01:26 PM

A picture of 2 of my co-workers just before we left work and attended a company Xmas bash.
I was going to wear my kilt but one of the guys wanted to wear one also so I loaned him an inexpensive Kilt I found for $39.00. Nothing but compliments from everyone...after the first gasp when we entered the room.

Another one I took. I need to find the people who were snapping pictures to get one of me.
It did happen though

**James Hood** · 26th December 11, 04:04 PM

Agreement with Bill. A 21 year old can't be that indispensible.

The employer's terminating this individual for verbal assault on your wife and slandering you during a company-family function (a double incident, plus previous reputation as a bully) IS doing the company a favour. Types like that do not serve their employers well, long-term and firms are better off without them.

**Jay** · 26th December 11, 06:26 PM

Originally Posted by Frank McGrath

Update on situation. We pass in the hall and nothing is said. Probably the best thing for both of us. He knows what he did was wrong. The company needs him too much to fire him. Someone would have to be trained to do his job and it would take too long.
If it were up to me to punish him, I would have him wear a kilt to the next function. Maybe his girlfriend would like it. Maybe he would like it. Ne's just a kid with a lot of growing up to do. So it's over until it happens again. TThanks to all for the suggestions and support. I keep that with me.

In the current economy, if you post for this guy's job, you will have 20 resumes within 4 hours of posting the position to Monster. And all will be more qualified, more experienced and better able than the "boy" they are replacing.