Wearing a Kilt to a wedding

[gary meakin]

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[Steve Barclay]

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...this is a common concern. The procedure is always the same. The woman in the big white dress calls the shots.

I'd imagine that the groom would have some say too!!

[Father Bill]

I'd imagine that the groom would have some say too!!

I love to work with people with such wonderful imaginations!

[rondo]

I'd imagine that the groom would have some say too!!

Uh......no! Just keep imagining.
Rondo

[Bing]

I'd imagine that the groom would have some say too!!

When one of my college friends got married he was told by the bride early in the planning process that he was to

Shut the f*** up and just make sure you show up!

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I thought it did not bode well for the future but he went ahead anyway. Didn't last 2 years.

[MadMouser]

Bing, that's a big giant warning sign. Too bad he didn't heed it.

My bride-to-be has stated "I don't care what he wears, as long as he's happy and shows up." She's wearing an Indian Saree style dress, and we're getting married in a Romanian Orthodox church. It's definitely breaking a bunch of the assumed norms.

[piperdbh]

The procedure is always the same. The woman in the big white dress calls the shots.

We've been to different weddings, I'm afraid. I've played for some where Big Mama ruled the roost, and the bride just wanted to run away. I baked for one for which the bride had made no decisions beforehand, and the ministers' wife, the Mrs. and I had to put together the ceremony and reception, all in one afternoon.

To the OP: If there's a chance that you might be the cause of friction between your sister and your Mama, skip the wedding and go fishing that day.

[Ryan Ross]

We've been to different weddings, I'm afraid. I've played for some where Big Mama ruled the roost, and the bride just wanted to run away. I baked for one for which the bride had made no decisions beforehand, and the ministers' wife, the Mrs. and I had to put together the ceremony and reception, all in one afternoon.

To the OP: If there's a chance that you might be the cause of friction between your sister and your Mama, skip the wedding and go fishing that day.

Oh dear... You bring up a very important point that I completely overlooked, in a gross oversight on my part.

I can't really add much, other than saying I know exactly what you're talking about... puppet mistresses.

[Bugbear]

Congratulations to your sister, and hope all goes well.

[MacMillans son]

Hey guys, long time no see! My sister is getting married and I want to wear a Kilt, but my mom says I'll be showing up the bride and groom and that it would be bad manners. What do y'all think?

I agree that you would not actually show up the bride and groom, but I think it is quite possible that people would wonder why you wore, what will likely viewed as, a "Scottish costume" to a wedding in Florida, other than to draw attention to yourself. Unless you are known by those in attendance to regularly wear the kilt, it will likely be interpreted as "Look at me, look at me!" regardless of your motive for wearing it.

Actually, I don't agree with the feedback to ask the bride, as brides usually want people to be happy at their weddings, and so may not give you honest feedback. I would ask yourself why it is so important to wear the kilt vs. something more traditionally worn to a wedding in America. If what you wear is consistent with the formality of the event, why would you have to ask the bride if you can wear it? Would you do that with the suit you may wear in it's place? I am of the belief that if you have to ask someones permission to wear the kilt, then you probably shouldn't wear it.

The primary reason I wear the kilt is to honor, and draw attention to, my ancestral heritage, something I am quite comfortable doing. But for me, drawing attention at someone else's big day is not that important, there are 364 other days I can do that if I want to.

That's just my honest opinion, and why I would consider other options if you have them.

Enjoy the day regardless of what you choose.