Help with the Wife!!!!

[cessna152towser]

It may take time to condition her to the idea, but I'm sure she'll come to be proud of you, especially once you get the sporran and belt. My wife was the exact opposite as she already knew men who wore kilts through her Scottish Country Dancing and her Country Holiday fellowship and I was the phillistine who had never donned a kilt and wouldn't even get married in one. Indeed we were married about five years before she finally encouraged me to wear a kilt for the first time. Now I have 15 kilts and wear them almost every day - wearing trousers is now a rare event for me.

[cherokeesix]

Thanks for all of the support gents!! I have taken her to the Grandfather Mountain Games before and she just didn't get the point. She is of German and English descent and could really care less about who fought whom in what war of which year. It is to say that history and heritage mean nothing to her. She is a wonderful gal that does not share my interests such as flying planes or spear fishing. Those activities I do on my own even though I wish she would take part. Oh well, my son is all jazzed up knowing that his kilt is being made right now in the MacMillan Ancient Hunting Tartan. He will be attending all of the games with his dear ol' Dad. Thanks Guys.

Patrick (The Semi-Kilted)

[morrison]

She'll be alright with you in your kilt. I haven't picked up from what you've shared so far that she's totally adverse to kilting. She apparently is ok with kilters, considering the fact that her (your) son will have ample opportunity to exclaim, "It's a KILT mom. It's not a skirt."

[Mark Keeney]

My advise is to make it a non issue. Call it a skirt yourself to show that the skirt word holds no insult power. Just wear it. Show her you are the same man she fell in love with and that nothing has changed in you life but a little more comfort and a little more style. Give her some ownership in the kilt. Let her help you pick out a sporran or other accessories that make it look less like a woman's skirt. Show some manly men in kilts and ask if this sporran would be best or these shoes etc.

My wife thought it was weird at first but now loves the kilt.

Most of all don't let it ruin your enjoyment of the kilt.

Mark Keeney

[Blu (Ontario)]

....My advice is to make it a non issue. Call it a skirt yourself to show that the skirt word holds no insult power....

Excellent! I did that just for fun a while back... My wife corrected me - "You mean kilt!"

[mcvarmit]

i,ve got one of them wives to, it is a challenge. try to have a good sense of humor about the whole kilt thing, and try not to take yourself to seriously.

good luck

slick

[Richland]

Ah! It was good while it lasted! You will stop missing her when all the lasses come around after seeing you in your kilt and accessories! LOL.

[thescot]

Good luck. If we knew how to solve that problem, we wouldn't have the same problem!

[cherokeesix]

OK Gents!!
I just got the phone call from Sir Robert that all of my other "Gear" had arrived. I will be by his shop tomorrow to pick up the sporran, belt, brogues, flashes, glengarry, etc, etc,... I will be back on tomorrow for some much needed advice and maybe even give everyone a chance to see a newly kilted Newbie for the first time!! Now I know what some of you mean by "Jonesing" for that stuff we buy. My Tank won't be in until next month but the Blackwatch, off the peg, acrylic will have to do for now. Thanks and I look forward to tomorrow as a child at Christmas.

Patrick (The Almost Kilted)

[IEScotsman]

First, welcome to the forum! (a bit late, I know)

Secondly, without a belt and sporran, the kilt can look like a skirt to the unexperienced. I wouldn't take that personally.

It's unfortunate that your wife doesn't seem to share your passion about your passions. That will make hobbies tough. But I'm sure she will come around to see that the men in her life love their kilts and she should be accepting of that fact. Like the rest have said, ease her into this.