Wedding Wear

[Tobus]

Oh, I wasn't talking about the advice in this thread being part of the confusion. It makes good sense. I was just thinking about another thread where the discussion was on strict rules on sleeve length and jacket cuts and proper ties, but then the answer on color coordination seemed to be that it's a free-for-all.

It's good advice to toss out the American dress code onion and focus solely on the Scots kilt attire onion. That's probably the source of confusion for those of us trying to learn: conflicting/confusing rules between the two.

Some rules seem universal, meaning that they can be applied to kilted attire or non-kilted attire (and some of us don't even know these rules, having never been exposed to them even though we've been wearing p***s all our lives). Other rules between the two onions seem to be at odds. So there's a lot to learn, and again, I thank the older experienced gentlemen for sharing their knowledge.

[Jock Scot]

Tobus. We are being rude here as we have hi jacked this thread. Sorry every one.

[AJWatson]

Hi Everyone,

Thanks for your advice and sorry if my question upset anyone as being ignorant. Like Tobus I am just looking to learn the etiquette and thankful of the advice of experienced members.

I have checked with the brides and my sister and uncle are expecting the PC and the bride for the 3rd one thought it was sweet we checked and would welcome the kilt. I will wear my Argyle jacket and daywear sporran.

Thanks for the interesting debate.

Andrew

[Standard]

Happy kilting AJ. As always here on XMarksTheScot please don't forget the photos!

[gordontaos]

I for one sincerely appreciate the advice. I had not considered that wearing the fly plaid would possibly upstage the Bride. You have certainly saved me from a serious social faux pas!

[denmcdough]

Most Americans are totally oblivious to proper kilt attire. I was oblivious until I found XMTS and started to learn from everyone. Hey, if you have no reference point of proper Scottish dress, than one will do whatever they learn from movies, TV, people around them, etc. That becomes the norm; that's, now, acceptable. It's like a child growing up in a house with violence...that's what they learn. Well, most homes in the USA do not have kilts or any inkling as to what is proper. So, wearing a kilt becomes whatever you want it to be, sorry to say.

As for wearing the PC/kilt at a wedding, well, yes, check with the bride. However, if people expect it, then go for it. I see nothing wrong...life is what you make of it, and if you show up at a wedding in a PC/kilt, well, the world is still gonna spin.

[Bugbear]

How about the groom, could he wear tartan hose with his argyle jacket?

[creagdhubh]

How about the groom, could he wear tartan hose with his argyle jacket?

Sure! He needs something to stand out! Just don't wear the "fly" plaid. I like the black Argyll as basic and plain as possible. You could dress it up with a colorful pocket square.

[Bugbear]

Ya, the more I have thought about it, the more I have become a fan of the look of argyle or tartan hose. That is, of course, just in my mind.

A nice silk pocket square would be a must for the groom, or anyone else.

[CoCelticCouple]

Well, AJWatson has his answers, so this note's a bit late, but as a bride-to-be I'd like to chime in! My first thought was to ask the brides and clarifiy the level of formality...which Jock stated wisely. All the advice given makes great sense to me and I am one of those US born "mutts" with lots to learn and much love for our history.

The perspective I can share here is that one top priority for most brides is for her guests to have a grand time and remember the wedding well. Your choice to wear your kilt honors her and adds opportunities for conversation and fun memories.

Whether you are one of many kilted gentleman or the only one, your decision to be kilted says the event is special to you...and what bride doesn't want that?

Sheila

TO Highlander 31...I love your wife's thought about kilts being like catnip to women!