First Kilt and the Wife

[Oldhiker]

she pretty much didn't speak the rest of the evening. This morning wasn't a whole lot better.

If you are concerned about the silence

When I get the announcement that my wife isn't speaking to me I say "Good, I have been waiting for this for 35 years"......

Let me tell you that this sure breaks the silence....... sometimes it even makes her smile and the problem gets discussed.

[beowulf67]

You have to put your foot down.
Say "Wife, I'm the husband. I'm the head of this house and what I say goes!



If that's ok with you?"

:-) You've already got lots of good advice, I'm sure it'll work out

[escherblacksmith]

Although I hate to say it, everyone has been through this (with a few notable exceptions). Make sure you communicate that you understand how it could throw off her night and that it wasn't your intent (assuming it wasn't ;-)}).

Odds are, she'll get used to it, my wife likes mine . . . although not necessarily the cost of the ones I'm looking at . . .

[Kilted Christian]

I think we're making progress and there are definitely times when she says "you're the man, you decide here." I am going to proceed slowly but I think things will be fine. I need to speak with Matt Newsome about a box pleated kilt because I think this is just so cool. I've been admiring kilts for many years and have finally gotten around to jumping in. I have a hard time now thinking that this is something I will grow out of. Cheers, Chris

[Aggie]

This topic is nothing new. Many more on the forum who have not responded have been through this stage of wife and kilt introductions. As those have said before, go slow and welcome to the forum.

[mcvarmit]

i'm the king of my castle, but the wife makes all the decisions. hey sometimes a little silence is a good thing. the wife still thinks kilts are dresses. so we make compromises,it seems to work for us.

semper fi and good luck

slick

[flairball]

Half the time, and some times more, women don't know what they want or how they're supposed to feel anyway. Just when your wife starts to warm up to it she'll end up having one of those days when she regresses and hates it. My experience has shown that men are supposed to care more about what women want then women need care about our wants, and women really believe this to be the way it should be. They'll never say it, but their behavior gives them away.

Your only hope is to apologize for the surprise (not the kilt), explain that it's an internationally recognized male garment, that you like it, and you've decided to wear it occassionally. She'll need to decide for herself how much she values your relationship compaired to her distain for the kilt.

My wife's feelings towards my kilt wearing shift more that the wind, so I've let her know that it's my decision to make, and if she feel my decision is inappropriate then she needn't be around me while I wear it. Of course, this has been the case as many times as she's helped me to coordinate an outfit. This weekend we attended a wedding, and she not only coordinated my kilt hose (switched from lovat green to cream), but let out an emphatic "Wow", and told me I looked "Great".

Where does it all leave us. Back at the beginning; Women haven't a clue what they want.

Good Luck

[mcvarmit]

Mr. Flairball, well said, i don't even believe i could add anything further to that fine statement.

semper fi
slick

[DrewO]

Q: What's the difference between a kilt and a wife?

A: No matter how old and worn, you'll never want to get rid of your kilt.

Cheers and welcome aboard!

[thescot]

Q: What's the difference between a kilt and a wife?

A: No matter how old and worn, you'll never want to get rid of your kilt.

Cheers and welcome aboard!

Oooh, good one.

Thanks, Drew.

Glad to hear things are better, DC. Hang in there.