Wife jealous of the Kilt

[Brian K]

My wife doesn't have a problem; go ahead and ask her and she'll tell you that I have the problem. And if I keep trying to wear that ridiculous thing out in public causing a spectacle and frightening children then it'll become an even bigger problem. For me.

She's right, you DO have a problem, but it's not what she thinks it is. Your problem is that you're too nice a guy to stand up for yourself and tell her what you really think. It's said that the difference between a kilt and any other skirt is what's underneath it. Use what you have under your kilt to stand up for yourself. You're not doing her any favors by acting so meekly about it either. Perhaps she'd be surprised and really like the you you'd be if you stood up for yourself a bit more.

Regards,

Brian

[Fit2BKilted]

A support group only works when the members choose to join because they acknowledge that they have a problem.

My wife doesn't have a problem; go ahead and ask her and she'll tell you that I have the problem. And if I keep trying to wear that ridiculous thing out in public causing a spectacle and frightening children then it'll become an even bigger problem. For me.

It seems to me that this sort of intolerance begs the question of how committed to the relationship the objector is... Presumably, there are underlying self-esteem issues at work if the mode of dress of one's SO remains a tangible threat to the 'established' relationship. I know that there were in the case of my father and his second wife... In that case, it was an issue of 'control'... My father was not a kilt wearer, but from my perspective the dynamics were identical: She had an pathological imperative to 'rule-the-roost' and had no hesitation about using emotional-blackmail to manipulate the family and command authority. This is an situation where the offender needs to recognize they have a problem and seek to deal with it rationally otherwise there will be fewer alternatives to a break-down.

[Zardoz]

Yikes!
I'm glad I don't have those kinds of issues!
In the last 20 years I think about the only thing my wife has expressly 'forbidden' was the 20 something redheaded girlfriend!

Honestly, if I had to give up that much control over my personal activities, dress, or hobbies, I think one day I'd just do a version of Lester Burnham's "employee in my own home" dinner table speech from "American Beauty" and clean house!

Wow!

[Frank McGrath]

Our doctor is a Beatles superfan. He even has an exam room decorated with memorabilia. Every time I go with my wife to the doctor, she now makes me wait in the wating room with all the kids. The last time We visited, I took my copy of the white album. It still has the poster and the headshots. The doctor actually came into the waiting room to see it. His eyes got real big and he started to drool. When I turned around, my wife was in the car, honking the horn. I can't wee why she is not as excited as we were.

[thescot]

I am quite amused at the responses which placed the problem squarely on the victim's shoulders, assuming that the wife's intentions were all pure. Believe it or not, women do get jealous, and they are used to being the best dressed, and sometimes they do become unreasonable in their demands.

Just like men!

I'm willing to bet that he knows his wife pretty well and knows what she means. And I'll also bet he knows her better than just about anyone else-especially us.

Like Forrestermodern, I choose to wear my kilt over my wife's objections when it's not to a "Scottish" function. It's a choice. She has readily admitted that she is jealous of the attention I get when kilted, so I have chosen to wear it whether she likes it or not. And . . .I have also chosen not to wear it sometimes when she objects. That also is a choice. It is a partnership after all. I may decide at any minute that I'll wear the kilt from now on whether she likes it, pouts, whines, complains, and generally acts grumpy. Or, I may not. But having to decide and argue about it does rub me a little the wrong way, so stay tuned. I will not, however, sell my stuff.

I believe that some folks are unreasonable, illogical, and silly. That's what makes Life interesting.

[ThistleDown]

I'm willing to bet that he knows his wife pretty well and knows what she means. And I'll also bet he knows her better than just about anyone else-especially us.

The nail on the head, Jim. I am very grateful that I don't have his problem and that I am surrounded by much more accepting folk of both genders. Respect is a two-way street, isn't it Ali?

Rex (too)

[ali8780]

The nail on the head, Jim. I am very grateful that I don't have his problem and that I am surrounded by much more accepting folk of both genders. Respect is a two-way street, isn't it Ali?

Rex (too)

indeed it is Rex

[ali8780]

This is all so very heartbreaking for me to read.

I think that a fundamentally important lesson can be learned here about treating our husbands with the common respect that any human deserves.

What a sad day to be a woman.

[gordontaos]

My idea of double secret probation is not to sell your kilt, but to reverse all previous decisions made regarding it.

[ForresterModern]

My idea of double secret probation is not to sell your kilt, but to reverse all previous decisions made regarding it.

Or buying 6 more kilts and wearing them around the house constantly in lieu of jeans or pajamas-----kilt, belt, sporran, hose, flashes, ghillies, heck even the balmoral, and what the hell, put a feather in it just for grins. Walk out to get the paper in the morning or the mail in the afternoon, take the dog for a walk, go for a (carefully executed) bike ride around the neighborhood, run down to the quick-mart for a gallon of milk or to fill the gas tank, even wear it out for a round of golf, or out for beers with your buds, just don't take her with you. If you demonstrate that you will wear the kilt with or without her, maybe she will begin to value the time with you more, whether or not you are kilted.

j

(Sorry, sometimes the passive-aggressive hairs on the back of my neck rise unexpectedly.)