And they call themselves men ...

[The Supreme Canuck]

You keep that attitude TSC, when you see the folks you speak of in a few years, you will be very happy that you did.

I know. It's just frustrating that it hasn't happened yet. I can understand it not happening in high school, but here I am at the end of my first year of university, and there's still nothing. There are some signs, though. I've been labelled both a "confidant" and "the most inoffensive guy ever." I'll take that, I suppose.

[Livingston]

When in high school, a Catholic boys school, one of my classmates had had polio and was in a wheel chair. This was well before the accessability laws so there were only stairs from one floor to the next. It was standard practice for the 4 of us nearest guys to grab a corner of his chair and carry him up or down when he got to the stairs. No questions, no cry for help...it just happened...every time, no matter what year the guys were that carried him. Try and see if that would happen now.

To me, respect and chivalry are 2 different things. You have to earn my respect whether you are male or female. I will be chivalress (sp) to you until your actions show you do not deserve it.

I like to see our younger members also replying on this thread and agreeing with all us old goats here. A tip of the Balmoral to you all.

[AckZel]

What can you ask if there is people eating with their cover on nowadays? Fast food or not, I just can't eat my hat on...

[The Supreme Canuck]

Hats? People still wear hats? Yet another piece of civilization that has gone for good here.

[davedove]

Remember, we are kilted gentlemen. We are used to standing out from the crowd. In this age of self-centered behaviour we again stand out by being well-mannered. We are the ones that people point to and say, "Why can't more people be like him."

A good rule is to try to be the type of person you would be proud to call a friend.

[Kilted KT]

Remember, we are kilted gentlemen. We are used to standing out from the crowd. In this age of self-centered behaviour we again stand out by being well-mannered. We are the ones that people point to and say, "Why can't more people be like him."

A good rule is to try to be the type of person you would be proud to call a friend.

Amen.

[cavscout]

At first thought, I agreed with this sentiment, then I remembered that Jesus went first to those who were "tarted up" and who the rest of the prevailing society at the time thought were beneath them, dined with them and basically treated them like the dignified children of God that they were, much to the dislike and disdain of the prevailing society.

"Those who are well don't need a doctor, but the sick do" (Matt 9:12).

Even a non-Christian can see that this is but a reflection of the universal "Golden Rule": Do unto others and you would have them do unto you.

For myself, it's bad manners to hold back good manners for any reason.

Please don't mistake my statement to mean I'm "looking down" on anyone based on appearance. I'm simply saying that when I'm rushing thru my day and dealing with my own set of issues, If I need to close my laptop and stand up to allow Grandma to have my seat, I will...if a high school girl with low ride jeans babbeling into a cell phone is the other end of the spectrum...she can stand, as she will probably not stop her conversation long enough to even say thank you.

[Schultz]

Please don't mistake my statement to mean I'm "looking down" on anyone based on appearance. I'm simply saying that when I'm rushing thru my day and dealing with my own set of issues, If I need to close my laptop and stand up to allow Grandma to have my seat, I will...if a high school girl with low ride jeans babbeling into a cell phone is the other end of the spectrum...she can stand, as she will probably not stop her conversation long enough to even say thank you.

And please pardon me if it reads as if I thought you were looking down, as that was not my intent at all.

I suppose I have learned not to even expect a "thank you" from anyone, nor do I even want one. Without trying to turn this into a religious/spiritual realm, I strive to be polite/chivalrous/what have you for no one other than myself and for the glory of God. Oh, occasionally I'll grumble "You're welcome..." if someone just doesn't acknowledge even my presence in the midst of a good deed, but I recognize that as my own failing, and not the other person's.

Regardless, I think we all can say that we're a dying breed, and that makes our burden even heavier, because it's up to us to pass it on to the next generation. Don't give up on them yet, there are teenagers out there who do care!

[Kilted KT]

Regardless, I think we all can say that we're a dying breed, and that makes our burden even heavier, because it's up to us to pass it on to the next generation. Don't give up on them yet, there are teenagers out there who do care!

We are only a dying breed if we let the breed die.

[Panache]

I know. It's just frustrating that it hasn't happened yet. I can understand it not happening in high school, but here I am at the end of my first year of university, and there's still nothing. There are some signs, though. I've been labelled both a "confidant" and "the most inoffensive guy ever." I'll take that, I suppose.

TSC ,

I'm reading your posts and keep thinking that I could have written the very same thing when I was back in High School / College. If you are true to yourself and can refrain from bitterness, things do change.

Perhaps younger ladies take a fancy to the more "dangerous" fellow, the ones with "bad eyes like a gypsy" (can't for the life of me remember where that quote is from). The more worthwhile ladies come to appreciate gentleness, manners, wit, and sophistication. They are worth the wait.

I met the love of my life at 26 and well out of my college years.

Take heart and remember what Sting said:

If, "Manners maketh man" as someone said
Then he's the hero of the day
It takes a man to suffer ignorance and smile
Be yourself no matter what they say

Cheers