Fighting objections from the wife

**TurboKittie** · 12th February 12, 05:48 PM

I know when I am embarrassed about how my husband looks in public, it really bothers me.

In my case though, it's only when I notice his clothes are stained or torn that I think it reflects badly on me.

I wish he would wear a kilt every weekend, because he looks great while wearing it. (I would say everyday, but for some reason the politics of his work prevent him from going there kilted.)

**Nik** · 17th February 12, 09:18 AM

So with the best advice I've heard to get into a kilt, wear it and just show it off more proudly. Should I go with a SWK standard or economy? The Misses has Irish background so I was thinking of getting the Irish National and wearing it on St. Patrick's day, in public.

-Nik

**sailortats** · 17th February 12, 09:51 AM

I would say go with the standard I think you will be happier in the long run. And be sure to treat the wife extra special on St. Patty's day while wearing the kilt. She's going to love it then.

**Father Bill** · 18th February 12, 06:19 AM

It's the Posession obsession that causes much of the friction!

**shannon** · 18th February 12, 10:27 AM

Roughly 2 years ago I got the "idea" to wear a kilt to my wife's cousin's wedding that was held in June 2011... My wife shot me down because she didn't want to be embarrassed in front of her family & friends. And then she told me I sounded like a woman accessarizing the kilt with sporran & etc... Although she's told me she finds the idea of kilt wearing men sexy but not her husband except in the bedroom.
Well now the wedding has pass & she has agreed to measure me for the kilt as soon as I come home in first weekend in March! She is now asking me how often I'm planning to wear it OTR & I told atleast twice a week. I'm not dropping over $500 to watch it hang in my closet... and of coarse she now tells me I have to take her out to dinner & not fast food!

FYI: It'll be a small sacrafice for wearing the kilt because after spending a month on the road driving, all I want to do is spend quality home time @ my "vacation home". We live 50 miles from nearest city for entertainment. I do not like to travel in the car more after driving for a month in the truck.

**Kilted Craanen** · 19th February 12, 07:03 AM

Why doesn't she just put up with it? It sounds more like it's her problem rather than yours

**ForresterModern** · 19th February 12, 07:41 AM

Just a brief example of my predicament:

I am working a twelve hour day in the hospital today with no direct patient contact, and seeing the opportunity to spend a comfortable day kilted at work strapped on the Forrester Hunting trad kilt (sewn by Bonnie Heather---thanks Bonnie) along with some new hose from Matt's STM place clearence. Up dressed and on my way out the door but stopped to kiss her awake with a goodbye kiss, which was followed with the usual "why are you wearing a kilt?" question. I said because I wanted to and would be at work, out of her sight until nearly bedtime tonite, and asked her what I was supposed to wear--Her response 'pants, of course". Now mind you I regularly work long shifts on weekends and use those opportunities to don the kilt as I know that I will not be in a public place in her presence with any risk of embarrassing ("I am not with that guy in the kilt") or overshadowing her (peacock effect), and know it will be a more comfortable day than sitting with the bits all scrunched up in a pair of nice jeans or cords. So really this is nothing new to her, one of the solutions and compromises I have reached in our relationship that allows me to wear the kilt without incurring her wrath, but I still get the "why are you wearing a kilt?" question instead of the "you look nice" or even have a good day at work" comments most men get, or that I get when not kilted. Sigh. But then we carry on. This took prevalence over the other good news I whispered in her ear---that I had lost 10 pounds in the last month and was officially under 260# for the first time in nearly 7 years, which recieved no comment at all, probably because of the kilt.

**Connaughton** · 19th February 12, 07:49 AM

After wife gets through her list of objections, and I always let her get through the list, as I am very polite. I calmly let her know that I was not actually asking for permission. She does get veto rights when the following apply. When the event is hers. Work, family or something like that. So her family and co-workers are blissfully unaware that I am proud to wear my kilt. That is fine with me. As time moved forward the objections are less and less. She has learned that I am not going to behave any differently in a kilt than I would in pants.

**Cowher** · 19th February 12, 10:50 AM

I wonder how these women would react if we told them how to dress. It's funny how some look at a kilt with such distain. Pity really. I have come to realize that much of the insecurities I feel at times are because of myself. I ended up implying wrong motives on others because I did not feel confident.
Perhaps remind her of the love you have for her and of the times you gladly supported her and ask that she, like it or not, supported you in your kilt wearing. Communicate. Women are emotional creatures if you tell her how things make you feel and how her rejection makes you FEEL then maybe she will understand a little more.

**sailortats** · 19th February 12, 11:23 AM

or the next few times you and she go out ask her "are you going to wear that? Maybe then she will understand how you feel when she says it in regards to your kilt.
I guess I should say that this comes from someone that is blissfully single, having dodged the bullet twice.