What to do

[Highland Logan]

I think it is possible to be helpful without insulting the other fellow. I would never say "you are wearing it wrong and let me tell you how to do it right". However I think I would be comfortable saying. "nice kilt, looks great on you. I have found mine hangs better with the pin just through the top apron".

Anyone offended by this type of approach I don't need to know anyway.

I was at the biggest, well known, and most high-end Burns Dinner, in my city, and there was a fellow there with his kilt on backwards. Lots of 'importaint' people go to this dinner, it's quite a place, if you're looking to network.

There is a bar on the bottom floor of the hotel where the dinner takes place, and most stop in for a couple before the reception. I seen him come in with four or five others, and they grabbed a table. After a bit, he went to the bar, so I went up and told him his kilt was on backwards. He said thanks, went to the washroom and fixed himself. When it was time to head up stairs, he said thanks again.

He was with people, not strangers.. they said nothing to him. I would hate to have been him, knowing that he would have embarrassed himself all evening long. Considering how this dinner is the top drawer event in the region, that could have cost him, depending on his goals for the evening.

You never have to be rude, you always have to pick you moment, but I feel it's best to help.

We all judge. You can say out loud that you don't, but there may be some who feel they don't like my opinion. Judgement. They may chose not to type it out, judgement none the less. Judgement can also be positive. So if you see that guy who needs a hand, be polite, find the right moment, and help him out. Maybe you help save his job, his account with a client, his chance to join a club or fraternal organization.

Frank