My wife scoffs...

[Alan H]

Once upon a time, years and years ago, there was a guy here who wanted to wear a kilt.

He bought a sportkilt. He posted one picture of himself....sportkilt hanging off of him, no socks, dirty worn out running shoes, a baggy hoodie sweatshirt over it all...and the killer, this hangdog expression as if he'd been caught stealing cookies.

He looked like ruddy hell warmed over. It was obvious that she'd not let him buy anything but that sportkilt, and we all know that there are limits to how "just a kilt" can look if you are clueless about how to wear it with anything else, and have none of the usual "kit". Still and all the KILLER thing about that picture was how utterly hammered he looked. He looked ashamed of himself with that kilt on.

He posted several times about how his wife was so adamant about him not wearing a kilt. He posted in a panic one day about how he thought she was going to divorce him over it. And then one day he showed up with a picture of a tartan tie, and how thrilled he was that his wife was going to LET HIM WEAR A TARTAN TIE.

We were all very nice. Very polite. But the whole time I was biting my tongue, because that guy didn't need a kilt.

........................What he needed was a backbone and to grow a set, pardon the term.

Respect your wife. Try to understand her views. Listen to her. After all, you love her and you married her. But do not give away your basic independence and manhood over every single issue to keep her happy. It won't work....not for her, not for you...and if that truly IS the only way to keep her happy, then mate....

.......it's time to find another place to live, because she doesn't love you.