Christmas Party for work.

[dutchy kilted]

I find it amusing that he waited until you were no longer at the table to make a disparaging remark about you.

Obviously he was concerned about your reaction might be if you heard him say it, so it sounds like he is in fear of you. (Must be the kilt.)

Keep his feet to the fire, especially since he insulted your wife.

[Meggers]

I find it amusing that he waited until you were no longer at the table to make a disparaging remark about you.

Obviously he was concerned about your reaction might be if you heard him say it, so it sounds like he is in fear of you. (Must be the kilt.)

Keep his feet to the fire, especially since he insulted your wife.

exactly. The guy got brave when you walked away. Ask him to repeat his comment to your face and watch his words stutter away.

[fingertrouble]

exactly. The guy got brave when you walked away. Ask him to repeat his comment to your face and watch his words stutter away.

Exactly. The whole stand down of 'you said what?' and all the braveness evaporates. Not done that often but it does work, if you stand your ground and don't get baited.

[MT4Runner]

Exactly. The whole stand down of 'you said what?' and all the braveness evaporates. Not done that often but it does work, if you stand your ground and don't get baited.

Absolutely.

Bullies like to create confrontation, but they often back down from it.

Sadly, he'll probably find another victim.

The HR route might be a wise one to spare the company some pain in the future--but won't necessarily save you any.

Confronting him directly will probably stem his comments toward you, and he'll go find another victim--at the possible future expense of the company.



You didn't create the situation.
You can either submit to it, confront him directly, or confront him publicly. It's normal to feel stress about it, but don't feel guilty about any course of action you decide to take.



By the by, the "pounding on metal" comment: are you a smith?

[Java]

I'd like to point out that you have all of your options open to you, because your wife handled herself like a lady. I shudder to think of the outcome if he had run into my wife's Latin temper..............

[Meggers]

I'd like to point out that you have all of your options open to you, because your wife handled herself like a lady. I shudder to think of the outcome if he had run into my wife's Latin temper..............

oooh I shudder to think of that too. haha.

I dont know that my mouth could have been shut either. Im a gentle woman 90% of the time, but when it comes to petty gossip and attacks on kind people, I find it hard to be a lady.

[Frank McGrath]

oooh I shudder to think of that too. haha.

I dont know that my mouth could have been shut either. Im a gentle woman 90% of the time, but when it comes to petty gossip and attacks on kind people, I find it hard to be a lady.

Some of you may know from earlier posts that my wife is of Austrian/German genes. If she was anything like her mother, she would have ripped the guy a new one right there on the spot. But my wife is much more genteel than that.

[Frank McGrath]

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Nope....... A McGrath

[Frank McGrath]

Sadly, he'll probably find another victim.

No, A McGrath.


I have often wondered if I would make a good smithy. I have been pounding on metal for years. Sometimes with heat, sometimes not. I am not a Blacksmith, but I was a fork Lift Mechanic for 30 years before getting out of the trade. But I do have several blacksmith hammers.





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