Forgive me if I'm being insensitive, since I only know what you've said, but for what it's worth here goes.

I'm getting the impression in England, particularly among the middle classes, there is no space left for grief at funerals. They are called "A Celebration of the Life of X" and taken up with tributes from relations and colleagues. I also get the impression it would be bad form to weep.

Obviously, people have to cope with bereavement in their own way, but I'm very suspicious of this denial of grief.

It sounds as though you managed to balance grief and celebration. I do hope that will help you as you continue to come to terms with your loss and not be put off wearing a kilt.