I got the go-ahead for a kilt at my own wedding.

[Leprechaun 91]

This, I feel strongly about. A man's kilt is his nametag. You don't wear somebody else's - you wear your own...

In general I agree one should wear tartan to thich they have a connection or wear a "Universal" tartan. That being said, it is a problem here in the States, that most kilt rental shops have a
VERY limited offering of tartans for hire. It's easy to find a Stewart, Black Watch (Campbell), Wallace, ETC. but if your are from a "less common" clan you may find it difficult to rent your own.
Unless your grooms... people? are going to have kilts purchased you may have a hard time with them all finding their familial tartan. Also, they may have no Scottish connection at all so they
would need to choose a universal.

To your question about appearance I offer this. Your bride may find it easier and preferable to have her bridesmaids coordinate with the groom's party. As such, having the groomsmen and
woman wear the same tartan would facilitate coordinating the wedding's overall color palate. With this in mind, I think the groom in his Familial tartan and the groomsmen in matching universal
may work best. You have the blessing of your bride-to-be to incorporate the kilts. It is certainly best to involve her in the process of choosing the tartans. My own wedding was not a kilted
wedding as my bride was not fully on board at the time. (She has long since come to her senses.)

Congratulations on your forthcoming nuptuals AND graduation. I wish you a long and happy life full of joy and laughter.

David

[OKSooner]

It's easy to find a Stewart, Black Watch (Campbell), Wallace, ETC.

Luckily, her family has a Wallace link.

[cessna152towser]

I wore my own kilt in my Clan Cunningham family tartan when I got married.
After the wedding vows were exchanged and the marriage register signed we had a pinning of the tartan when I attached a Cunningham tartan shawl to my wife's wedding outfit to mark the fact that she had now joined the clan.
Our Best Man (Groomsman) is a piper and he played his pipes for us as we left the ceremony.

[sbevans]

I suppose the main starting points are what the bride wants, and if any of the groomsman already have highland attire. Just my thoughts.

[Liam]

I suppose the main starting points are what the bride wants, and if any of the groomsman already have highland attire. Just my thoughts.

Is a wedding not a commencement of a partnership? Many modern weddings do not have the bride's family pay the entire freight so the Groom should have a legitimate say in how he and his groomsmen are dressed. It is not always about what the bride or her mother wants!

[tpa]

Matchy-machy may occur at a clan gathering, but even then it's unlikely: a female of the clan bringing her partner who is not of the same or perhaps any clan; but if kilts are owned by the respective parties, no Scotsman is going to pay out good money to hire one!

[Stokegers]

Hi

I wore a Maxwell muted kilt whilst the rest of the wedding partt wore highland grey.

The only thing I would have changed is that I would have brought my then 4 year son a Maxwell muted kilt as well.

[sbevans]

Is a wedding not a commencement of a partnership? Many modern weddings do not have the bride's family pay the entire freight so the Groom should have a legitimate say in how he and his groomsmen are dressed. It is not always about what the bride or her mother wants!

I couldn't agree with you more. As with any good partnership, it is important for both partners to have input. As the OP stated, he likes the idea of people wearing their clan tartans, but what does his wife to be like? And if the others standing up already have highland attire, are they able and willing to incur the expense of the rental? Planning a wedding requires compromise, but don't loose sight of the most important part, which is the many happy years you will have together!

[Jock Scot]

The Bride asking and possibly demanding that the groom in particular and others in general wear a tartan other than their own just shows a complete and utter lack of understanding of Scottish traditions and does not bode well for the future of their marriage.In my book, a short two word answer would put the the situation in perspective from a Highland Scot's point of view--------- and the second word would be "off"! I am sorry but this blatant and contrived playing at being a Scot really won't do.

[OKSooner]

Is a wedding not a commencement of a partnership? Many modern weddings do not have the bride's family pay the entire freight so the Groom should have a legitimate say in how he and his groomsmen are dressed. It is not always about what the bride or her mother wants!

When brides are in full control of groomsmen apparel, you start seeing them far too match-y with the bridesmaids.