Once I judged a woman, based on her looks.

[sathor]

On the other hand... I worked for a year or two at a store that did Aura readings via biofeedback. What came of that experience was that I learned that you can be surprised what you can determine from people just by looking at them for a few moments, though there can be some false signals, its not that hard. You just need to be careful not to manifest your snap judgment onto the person forcing them to be what you think rather than who they are. (ie, let them be themselves and see if they prove you wrong)

[Alan H]

Ah, but how much better to not make that snap judgement at all.

I figure, as Matt points out, that others may do that....make a judgement on who I am based on how I look. That's their issue. Just because they do it doesn't mean that I have to.

I mean, I DO make those judgements, just like anyone. However, I hope that I am a whole, whole, whole lot more available and ready to change those judgements mighty darned quickly when presented with even a shred of evidence to the contrary.

There are professors in my building who pull down multimillion dollar grants and have labs with a dozen to twenty postdocs and grad students in them and they look like one step removed from street person.

[Smayniac]

"snip"So dress appropriately! (And watch lots of "What Not to Wear" on TLC!). lol.....

Are Clinton and Stacy recommending the kilt these days? It seems to me you could spend your whole five grand on one really good kilt outfit, but they might have a problem with that concept.

Bob

[thescot]

...and she walks in.

I could not believe my eyes. Blonde hair, teased up to permanent windblown-status... red nails, crop-top with a tanned and taught stomach peeking out over her low slung shorts. . . . I figured...OK..."Brain Dead". GREAT to look at, but fluff between the ears, for sure.

Hey, you know the rule here. Where are the pictures?

OK, OK, OK. I'm only joking. Jeez, can't you guys take a joke? In all this get-in-touch-with-your-feelings talk, I just thought I'd throw in a little chauvinist joke for laughs.

And besides, a pretty girl is a pretty girl.

[Coemgen]

Reminds me of my best friend. Drop dead gorgeous, great smile, terrific sense of humour, smart as a whip (pre-med at Cornell, set to graduate summa cum laude last I heard), and can break your arm if you tick her off.

Oh, be still my heart …

[The F-H.C.A.G.]

And how has Mrs. H aged?

Oh dear, you have no idea of the utter magnificence of the one, the only, the most amazing and incredible Mrs. H, known to those of us in the Nor Cal Rabble as Luminous Joan and now as Cloaked-in-Midnight Joan. Do not even consider yourself worthy to be in the same room with her, oh unworthy worm!

In other words, she has aged quite well, thank you very much.

Be well,

[Alan H]

Oh dear, you have no idea of the utter magnificence of the one, the only, the most amazing and incredible Mrs. H, known to those of us in the Nor Cal Rabble as Luminous Joan and now as Cloaked-in-Midnight Joan. Do not even consider yourself worthy to be in the same room with her, oh unworthy worm!

In other words, she has aged quite well, thank you very much.

Be well,

Mrs. H kicks butt and takes numbers...nodding.

[bigdad1]

Alan after meeting you I am shocked, shocked I tell you to learn that you judged this lady by her looks and didn't give her a chance to prove she was a blonde. Tsk, tsk. I hope you truly learned your lesson. LOL
Good story and something to learn from.

[Carolina Kiltman]

Having spent 44 years in an institution (of higher learning), I have had many such experiences.

I quickly learned to keep an open mind. As Matt said, it is a natural (probably ingrained through thousands of years human history) reaction. It may really be a survival mechanism, putting us on our guard when meeting a stranger who could be of hostile intent.

One, looked like a high fashion model, wound up as one of my advisees. I never did get tired of looking at her, and she still drops by when she is in town. (She is now a Judge in Upstate NY).

Then there was the one with the spiked purple hair, who wore a live snake around her neck. . . . Oh well, life can be awfully dull without something or someone(s) to liven it up.

[Panache]

Mrs. H kicks butt and takes numbers...nodding.

Plus she happens to be the personal aviatrix of the Captain of the XMTSAS Saltire

Not only beautiful but a highly intelligent and talented lady.

Someday I'll get to waltz with her!

Cheers

Jamie