Quote Originally Posted by Kilted Craanen View Post
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He told me he would find it ashaming to be together with someone in an argyll outfit who was not scottish and that it was not a kilt on a non-scotsman, but a skirt.
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What do you think about it? I find it unspeakably rude.
My response is a little different than others.

I think it is too easy for people to excuse their own rude behavior for some "cause" they imagine justifies their impolitic acts. Some people think they have earned the right to be rude or abrupt because they are older. Other people think they *have to be* rude or the person they're talking to won't hear them. But the excuses are all inane. Being old, having parented children, having triumphed over some indignity . . . none of these achievements come with the right to be rude. And it seems all too easy to be rude to the people closest to you.

Tell your father that you love him, but you expect him to be polite to you. If he's not comfortable showing up with you at *his* dinner while you wear a kilt, he certainly has a right to express that, and you'll love him none the less. He doesn't need to change his view of the world for you. But he does need to know that you expect him to communicate his views in a polite and sensitive manner. As his son and a member of his family, you deserve his best behavior.

Abax