Trying not to get angry at co-worker

[mbhandy]

I feel you missed the snappy come back. Now you need to take the bull by the hornes and just tell him you don't appreciate those kind of comments and if he does not stop wou will be forced to make a formal complaint about his comments.(

MrBill

[gseven1]

I feel you missed the snappy come back. Now you need to take the bull by the hornes and just tell him you don't appreciate those kind of comments and if he does not stop wou will be forced to make a formal complaint about his comments.

MrBill

I agree with Mr. Bill, especially if this has been an ongoing problem. I don't believe that a person ought to run off to HR when a problem arises, there is more benefit IMO to try and work it out first without having management involved, however, if this person and his girlfriend can't or won't resolve it... then by all means file a harassment complaint with HR.

[bricelythgoe]

I feel you missed the snappy come back. Now you need to take the bull by the hornes and just tell him you don't appreciate those kind of comments and if he does not stop wou will be forced to make a formal complaint about his comments.(

MrBill

My problem is that I am not good at that. I have found that if I try to say something quick to get back, something really dumb usually comes out. I am the kind of person that has to think about something before I say it.

[bricelythgoe]

As I kept thinking about this, I realized that it was the comment about my son that got me a little angry. I don't know why, but it really got me steaming when the two were making fun of him. I think it is so cool that my son comes up to me and says, "Dada, I want a kilt!" I guess that is what made me more upset. I can handle it with me, but not my family.

[GMan]

I understand your feelings about the comments regarding your son. Yet I go along with those who say leave it alone. I find that once you do that everyone will get tired of the "jokes"

[jpo]

As I kept thinking about this, I realized that it was the comment about my son that got me a little angry. I don't know why, but it really got me steaming when the two were making fun of him. I think it is so cool that my son comes up to me and says, "Dada, I want a kilt!" I guess that is what made me more upset. I can handle it with me, but not my family.

I was going to say, when he went after your kid that is when things go unacceptable. The jokes about you were simply pathetic, not particularly offensive, but when they go after your kids thats not cool.

I feel like taking him aside and saying something about what he said about your son is the best course of action. It is hard to get to people who think that calling it a skirt is the best thing ever, but pointing out that he was insulting your kid might get through his thick skull.

Good luck, and just remember, when you argue with a fool, passersby can't tell who is the idiot.
jim

[Squeaky McMurdo]

Lol, why don't we just plan that northern Utah kilt night, invite that guy, and poke fun at him for wearing pants?

[Chas]

Here in the UK, sexual harassment and bullying in the workplace are illegal. You and your son were the victims of a premeditated assault. If it were me, I would make a formal, legal complaint to the highest level of management. Maintain the pressure until such time as you receive a full, abject and public apology and promise that there would be no further occurrences to you or anyone else.

I do not believe for a moment that you are the only victim of this idiot's 'wit' - there are others in your workplace who are suffering in silence.

Fact: People do not commit suicide because of the overwhelming things that happen in their lives - it is the small things that push them over the edge. Things like someone laughing at them at work.

If you stop this idiot now, you could be saving someone's life in the future. I am sorry if this sounds too heavy, but I have studied this.

Regards

Chas

[meinfs]

Next time, tell him and his gf "Póg mo thóin" and say thóin with explosive force as to cause a projectile to ...

[The Barry]

Lol, why don't we just plan that northern Utah kilt night, invite that guy, and poke fun at him for wearing pants?

My thoughts exactly!