Congratulations on being pregnant... not!

[pdcorlis]

It matters not, her attitude towards kilts is the least of her issues, believe me...

Sadly, I suspect you may be right but the teacher in me always allows for room to change and room for growth.

[Paul]

haha good oan yae!
I'm just back from the states and wish I took a kilt to wear a couple of days. I dont think I'd let negative comments affect me too much - especially from the poorly-dressed people I saw around Florida (obviously not a majority but you know...)

[Frank McGrath]

What is it that the guy on TV says....."You can't fix stupidI still get comments from a few of my co workers. I just look at them and say that I can take off the kilt at the end of the day, but you are still stupid.

[hospitaller]

I would have given an ugly look to her and 10 minutes later come up with a snappy retort. I wish my mind worked that fast!

haha, well I had that particular line in mind thanks to a TV commercial, where a guy and a girl are in an elevator and he compliments her on being pregnant, to which she replies that she is not and gets all flustered.

Iit just so happened the opportunity presented itself for me to use that line, and it worked great!

[CDNSushi]

"If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue," advised Kipling. The schadenfreude in me says that was the appropriate response, (served her right!)... and yet a little part of me would want us all to rise above that sort of schoolyard name-calling.

There will always be riff-raff in the world, and to them it won't matter what you wear, kilted or not, or your physical appearance, they will always be ready with some insult with which to call you down -- the only requirement is that you are there and aren't a member of their little group.

Yet, having said that, I can't say I wouldn't have reacted in exactly the same way had I been in the same situation, and felt perfectly justified (and satisfied with myself) for having said/done what I had...

Personally, I think that Dale Carnegie should be required reading in all high schools, maybe for the betterment of all of us. I keep his book on-hand, and a few weeks ago I finished re-reading it for the third time. Each time I pick it up I glean more and wish that the lessons in it would start coming more naturally.

As the saying goes, it's hard to soar with the eagles when you're surrounded by turkeys... :-) Yet, God, in His infinite wisdom decided that it was not good to endow all men with an equal measure of intelligence. Who am I then to criticize when I encounter those who weren't so fortunate? There, but for the grace of God, go I.

[ChubRock]

Working with young people, I find that girls (young women) don't make mean comments like that unless they are under the influence of some mind altering intoxicant, stimulant or are reacting in a way that is how they are commonly treated. Maybe that is all she knows, was high, drunk or plain mean. Either way, you were quick, to the point and made her think about being rude.

[Panache]

My thoughts

I consider myself a gentleman and in my world view this is one of the highest titles one can have.

I disagree with the approach Hector took

I wear a kilt often and I get many compliments and many wonderful and positive interactions about this.

However sometimes there are those that want to make sport of my attire.

I don't hear them

Literally

Maybe it is just me but I try to notice the positive in Life.

That is worthy of my attention

A young person who is insecure, ignorant, or both trying to challenge me is not worthy of my attention.

Hector, you chose your words and engaged this person.

To me your response showed that you gave this individual credence and descended to their level.

She made fun of your clothing so you made fun of her body.

This is not what I would have done.

I would have walked on by and not heard, the same way a polite person doesn't hear some awkward bodily noise. Such things exist in Life but are of such low import they warrant no attention.

If this woman was so impudent as to offer this comment to me directly to my face and merely walking away was not an option I would have responded with:



"Well Miss I am wearing a kilt and a gross is a unit of measurement equalling 144"


"That is too bad you think so, luckily I like my attire enough for the both of us"


"I am sorry you don't like kilts. Such a pity as I thought I had rather bonny knees. oh well"


"To each their own , kilts aren't for everyone, but I think they are comfortable and very handsome. This is good enough for me"


"Really? Thank for sharing your opinion. Mine differs."


"Good gracious! To think that all those Scotsmen have been wrong all these years!"


"I'm sorry, I put on my kilt today by mistake. It was supposed to be lederhosen day!"


"It was an emergency you see, there is haggis mid town that needs to be addressed before it can be eaten"


"And to think that I thought I looked quite dashing, well to each their own"



etc.


We are human and it is human to get mad back at people that do stupid things.

To me it says a lot when we can rise above the little petty stuff.

The suggestions I offered above would deal with a rude person with a bit of sense of humor.

A favorite saying of mine is "poise is the art of raising the eyebrow not the roof"

I think that our members should take heed of this incident and be prepared.

So when you are dealing with some rude person you rise above their rudeness.

Cheers

Jamie :ootd:

[bchunter]

Panache, I believe you never hear those negative comments because you are walking on a higher road than the one they trod.

[Smayniac]

"Well Miss I am wearing a kilt and a gross is a unit of measurement equalling 144"


"That is too bad you think so, luckily I like my attire enough for the both of us"


"I am sorry you don't like kilts. Such a pity as I thought I had rather bonny knees. oh well"


"To each their own , kilts aren't for everyone, but I think they are comfortable and very handsome. This is good enough for me"


"Really? Thank for sharing your opinion. Mine differs."


"Good gracious! To think that all those Scotsmen have been wrong all these years!"


"I'm sorry, I put on my kilt today by mistake. It was supposed to be lederhosen day!"


"It was an emergency you see, there is haggis mid town that needs to be addressed before it can be eaten"


"And to think that I thought I looked quite dashing, well to each their own"

We could do worse than to remember some of these as we venture kilted into an unkilted world. While I am a very forward person, I am not given to pleasure at confrontation; whether of my choosing or another's. At my high school reunion recently, an old classmate asked me why I was wearing a skirt(I was in a solid black Xkilt), but followed up by saying another gent called it a "cool kilt." I informed him that his friend was correct. We went on to enjoy the rest of the evening catching up on thirty years of life.

Bob

[Larry124]

Sadly, I suspect you may be right but the teacher in me always allows for room to change and room for growth.

I like that, but with adults a teacher needs someone who agrees to be a student, and that's often a coin toss at best.