Quote Originally Posted by davidlpope View Post
Very well-put.

Is your interest in wearing kilts viewed by your wife as a runaway obsession? In other words, "Is it always about the kilt?" Did you grow up wearing a kilt? Were you wearing a kilt when you met her and started dating? Or is this some new "wierd" obsession in her eyes? Does it negatively impact her in a financial sense? Does it cause her to respect you less as a man because it seems "childish" to her?

Has she reacted like this to any other issue in your marriage? If so, then perhaps she has a tendancy to overreact to your receipt of attention from others. If not, then maybe she is identifying an issue that the two of you need to address...

It's just clothing, after all...

Cordially,

David
David

I am sure your points are valid with many relationships to some degree or other. In fact I was not kilted when we were dating, only became so a little over two years ago when I was completing some of the deepest part of my geneology research (since my two sons are the last with the family name going back about 6 generations and hold the key to carrying it through to future generations) and discovered the scottish roots, coincident with having the opportunity to go there on business just under two years ago.I am sure my wife thinks kilts have become an obsession, but no more so than several other transient passions in my life that have come and taken a prominent place in my life, but rather than passing away have instead stayed an important part of me and my life. Financials are not an issue as I really do not spend that much compared to some other passions in the recent past---for instance I spent at least as much money building up one expensive italian carbon fiber bicycle frame into a rideable work of art two years ago, as I have since spent on nearly all my kilt stuff since. And that was just one of three such bikes I built up over the last five years, including at least one for her. I could buy three very nice tanks with the money I spent just on one set of wheels for one of the bikes.

Our relationship and its background is a complex one that would make a"made for TV movie" look tame, and could actually be our own reality show if we so chose, but that is not the reason for the disproportionalte friction. Long story better saved for a day when more time and whisky is available.

jeff