Wife does not like me in a kilt

[GreenDragon]

just joined. pass me a Guinness.

[JOHNNY FAIRLESS]

My wife doesn't mind at all because she knows its about pride in your heritage, wich alot of people lack where Im from. Just tell your wife the same thing I told mine. Just because Im an American who like to wear a kilt, doesn't mean Im going to tell people im here from Scotland on holiday and fake an accent everywhere we go !! It's an opportunity to educate people. Good luck brother

[Riverkilt]

Thanks for this post. You've given me much gratitude for not having a wife, rather a number of ladyfriends who enjoy it when I'm kilted.

Hope you can talk it out....

A suggestion for those who fear the same response from their wife. Bring home all sorts of books and magazines on hang gliding. Then switch to kilts. She'll probably be more accepting.

[Dixiecat]

I have the same problem. The only issue I have when she says she doesn't want to be seen with me in my kilt is that she BOUGHT me a kilt! If I buy something for her in the form of clothes - skirt, dress, jewelry, whatever - I want to see her wear it!

Wow. I don't see that you have any problem at all. She bought you a gift that you can enjoy and she did it against her own feelings for it. Your wife is truly selfless. Get your butt outa that cry me a river social group and go hug your wife.

[CMcG]

In my experience (girlfriend, not wife) it matters quite a bit what type of kilt and how I wear it:

- My lass doesn't much care for modern kilts (Utilikilt et al.).

- If we're going out in public, she likes to see me kilted up nicely. This is usually reserved for special occasions or big events.

- I sometimes wear a kilt very casually around the house when my lass is in sweatpants and we agree not to complain about each other looking like a slob...

Before giving any advice to the OP, I'd like to know what type of kilt and how he was wearing it? I'd also like to know if he asked his wife if she would approve of a different outfit, or the kilt being worn on a different occasion?

If she is categorically against any kilts, ever, then I'm sad for the OP

[eagle43172]

It seems that every time I go out kilted 2/3 of the women I meet compliment me and the garment. My wife used to get annoyed having strange(r) women coming out of the blue to say how much thel like to see a man in a kilt. She's used to it now, and has accepted a degree of scottish dress herself (she's French by birth).

[Monkey@Arms]

As mentioned before check out some of the old threads on the issue, lots of good insights about why your wife might have reservations about your sudden change in clothing style. Many of us have been there and come out the other side. Had fights with my wife about the kilt at first, but its been years. With patience things can change.

Best regards,

Jake

[GreenDragon]

Wow. I don't see that you have any problem at all. She bought you a gift that you can enjoy and she did it against her own feelings for it. Your wife is truly selfless. Get your butt outa that cry me a river social group and go hug your wife.

Its just confusing!

[BozemanboB]

My wife initially had an issue with it, as well. Said she didn't like the attention it brought. I finally realized that she meant she didn't like the attention that SHE thought it brought to HER. She's kind of a wall flower and a bit insecure, and was afraid that when I wore a kilt everyone would notice HER walking with the guy in a kilt.

She's since learned that when I wear a kilt she basically disappears from everyone else's sight, and she's just fine with that. Of course, I lavish her with loving attention, and she's just fine with that, too!

boB

[auld argonian]

Its just confusing!

I'm with you...with all of this "tough love" going around the forum these days, I'm starting to feel like I'm on the frickin' Dr. Phil show.

Dr. Phil....just as an aside...there's one guy that I don't want to see in a kilt.

As you were.

Best

AA