When I went to my brother-in-law's wedding, I took both kilt and trousers. I asked him which he'd rather me wear.

My line of thinking was that I was a guest at his wedding, and while I would love to wear the kilt, I knew I'd be the only one. The kilt is an attention-grabber. And while I know at a wedding the bride rightfully gets all the attention, I would not want it to appear as if I were attempting to steal any of that limelight!

But really, the only people's opinion who really mattered to me were my brother-in-law's and his brides. So I just figured I'd ask them.

As it turns out, he was really excited I had brought my kilt and said he'd be honored if I wore it. So I did. Of course during the ceremony all eyes were on the happy couple. I did get some compliments and comments during the reception afterwards, par for the course.

But if he had said trousers, I would have worn them and been just as happy. No need to try to survey other wedding attendees and family members to get their opinions. Just do what the happy couple wishes.