Anyone's spouse/significant other vehemently opposed to you kilting?

**Mike in Dayton** · 30th September 11, 05:42 PM

Originally Posted by Java

My wife doesn't like my kilt wearing either. It's not the kilt she doesn't like, if she met you in the street wearing yours, It wouldn't bother her at all. It's me in a kilt that bothers her. We've been married for 27 years, and for right or wrong, everything one of us does reflects on the other one. She wouldn't wear anything so "unusual" so it embarasses her when I do. There. I defended her point of view, because I love her. Now let's talk about how much it sucks...............

Have Fun,
Java

I have run into this same attitude. It is the "not on my man" syndrome. They like my kilt and always make good comments about it but they don't want "their" man to wear one.

Mike

**CDNSushi** · 30th September 11, 06:03 PM

Originally Posted by Mike in Dayton

I have run into this same attitude. It is the "not on my man" syndrome. They like my kilt and always make good comments about it but they don't want "their" man to wear one.

Mike

Which is either related to, or symptomatic of, the related illness: "not in my backyard" syndrome.

**James Hood** · 3rd October 11, 06:41 PM

The last two posts deserve applause for on-target, appropos brevity.

"Nice, attractive, but not on my man (also read, "wretched victim").

**Jay** · 6th October 11, 09:53 AM

Originally Posted by Mike in Dayton

I have run into this same attitude. It is the "not on my man" syndrome. They like my kilt and always make good comments about it but they don't want "their" man to wear one.

Mike

Im sure wardrobe is not the only way these spouses show their "ownership" attitude.

**Java** · 7th October 11, 06:52 AM

Originally Posted by Jay

Im sure wardrobe is not the only way these spouses show their "ownership" attitude.

Isn't the internet cool? You can bust into a thread and insult everyone's wives, and they can't do anuthing about it!!!

It's not about "ownership". It's about caring enough about another person to have an opinion about what they're wearing. I don't remember anyone saying that they weren't "allowed" to wear one. Some of us have wives that don't like us wearing kilts. We're just in here talking amongst ourselves about that. We can appreciate that you're too cool to care what women think. The rest of us will just carry on with our little thread.

Hav Fun,
Java

**TurboKittie** · 3rd October 11, 09:05 PM

I have never felt like I fit in anywhere. So, I learned embraced that part of me and was proud of it.

When I discovered my brilliant, wonderful, loving, perfect for me - but a bit curmudgeonly and somewhat traditional husband, expressed an interest in kilts...I jumped all over it and make sure he knows how much I adore seeing him well kilted.

I haven't seen any women overtly hit on him while in one, but knowing him I'd likely be more amused than jealous. (He handles this kind of thing well and always has.)

**Jaggy thistle** · 5th October 11, 02:07 PM

I must be very lucky I have worn the kilt most of my life because I like the comfort wear it everyday in all situations except when working so my wife knew what she was getting into she will not go out with me if I am not wearing a kilt:

**Shaun S.** · 6th October 11, 07:32 PM

I too am one of those poor saps whose wife objects. She has heard all the arguments but stands by her opinion, even acknowledging that it is illogical. This will be a long battle for me.

**Nighthawk** · 6th October 11, 08:25 PM

Originally Posted by Bugbear

Always nice to hear of someone having a good family and marriage or relationship, Hawk.

Yeah, we have a good one! She's a keeper- as are my kids. But with them I have no say in the matter...

Originally Posted by O'Callaghan

Even though it was my wife's idea that I get a kilt, she still doesn't want me to wear one in public unless I am going to an event where there are other guys in kilts.

I hate that attitude. And so many kilt wearers have it, too. It's like "OK, I'll wear it to the wedding, and then run home and immediately shove it back into the closet. That way, no one sees me in it." As if it's a thing to do only when you have no other choice, and then hide shamefacedly as soon as humanly possible. I guess I don't understand why people are so ashamed of it.

Originally Posted by Shaun S.

I too am one of those poor saps whose wife objects. She has heard all the arguments but stands by her opinion, even acknowledging that it is illogical. This will be a long battle for me.

Have you tried the "I respect you enough not to tell you how to dress. Please afford me the same courtesy" argument? That worked for a friend of mine.

**Bugbear** · 7th October 11, 10:03 AM

Originally Posted by Nighthawk

Yeah, we have a good one! She's a keeper- as are my kids. But with them I have no say in the matter...

Well, when they turn eighteen, you can shove them out of the nest.

I hate that attitude. And so many kilt wearers have it, too. It's like "OK, I'll wear it to the wedding, and then run home and immediately shove it back into the closet. That way, no one sees me in it." As if it's a thing to do only when you have no other choice, and then hide shamefacedly as soon as humanly possible. I guess I don't understand why people are so ashamed of it.

Ya, the closet isn't much fun.