Wife does not like me in a kilt

[GreenDragon]

I am new to kilting, we are on vacation and I thought or hopped that I could try wearing my kilts. My wife is not very enthused with my kilting, she said I look like a Dork and made a crack about cross dressing, so unless I go to Celtic Games by myself, I not sure but I think my kilting days have been short.

I have the same problem. The only issue I have when she says she doesn't want to be seen with me in my kilt is that she BOUGHT me a kilt! If I buy something for her in the form of clothes - skirt, dress, jewelry, whatever - I want to see her wear it!

[Dixiecat]

I have the same problem. The only issue I have when she says she doesn't want to be seen with me in my kilt is that she BOUGHT me a kilt! If I buy something for her in the form of clothes - skirt, dress, jewelry, whatever - I want to see her wear it!

Wow. I don't see that you have any problem at all. She bought you a gift that you can enjoy and she did it against her own feelings for it. Your wife is truly selfless. Get your butt outa that cry me a river social group and go hug your wife.

[GreenDragon]

Wow. I don't see that you have any problem at all. She bought you a gift that you can enjoy and she did it against her own feelings for it. Your wife is truly selfless. Get your butt outa that cry me a river social group and go hug your wife.

Its just confusing!

[auld argonian]

Its just confusing!

I'm with you...with all of this "tough love" going around the forum these days, I'm starting to feel like I'm on the frickin' Dr. Phil show.

Dr. Phil....just as an aside...there's one guy that I don't want to see in a kilt.

As you were.

Best

AA

[Spartan Tartan]

I would give her some time to adjust to the idea. If you are planning to wear your kilt only occasionally and when others in kilts are around, you might have more luck. If she is still not intersted, you always have kilt nights with the guys.

[Dixiecat]

Its just confusing!

And? If confusion is all you're complaining about, then you're being absurd and melodramatic. Not the way to win respect and indulgence from your wife.

My ex was a hunter when I met him. Ducks and grouse mostly with the occasional moose or caribou. I'd not been brought up that way and had no experience. Guns make me uncomfortable. However, I went hunting with him once and was given lessons on how to handle the gun. Lovely day, the dog enjoyed the hike and we didn't see any birds, but that was the only and last time I went. I found I still was uncomfortable with the gun and found I disliked the thought of hunting. However, I never once stood in his way to go hunting and never disallowed him his purchase of a gun when he wanted it. I even allowed the guns in the house as long as they were properly secured and locked away. He respected my feelings enough to buy a proper door and lock for our furnace room and put his guns there.

You have to give as well as take. And, it looks like your wife is doing the giving. And, as it's harder to give when the person dislikes or is uncomfortable with the gift, I think that deserves more respect than whining about the dislike.

[GreenDragon]

And? If confusion is all you're complaining about, then you're being absurd and melodramatic. Not the way to win respect and indulgence from your wife.

My ex was a hunter when I met him. Ducks and grouse mostly with the occasional moose or caribou. I'd not been brought up that way and had no experience. Guns make me uncomfortable. However, I went hunting with him once and was given lessons on how to handle the gun. Lovely day, the dog enjoyed the hike and we didn't see any birds, but that was the only and last time I went. I found I still was uncomfortable with the gun and found I disliked the thought of hunting. However, I never once stood in his way to go hunting and never disallowed him his purchase of a gun when he wanted it. I even allowed the guns in the house as long as they were properly secured and locked away. He respected my feelings enough to buy a proper door and lock for our furnace room and put his guns there.

You have to give as well as take. And, it looks like your wife is doing the giving. And, as it's harder to give when the person dislikes or is uncomfortable with the gift, I think that deserves more respect than whining about the dislike.

We both do the giving, trust me.

[Cowher]

This post is quite presumptive. The wording is hostile and rude in my opinion.
Respect and communication will crumble many walls in any relationship.

And? If confusion is all you're complaining about, then you're being absurd and melodramatic. Not the way to win respect and indulgence from your wife.

My ex was a hunter when I met him. Ducks and grouse mostly with the occasional moose or caribou. I'd not been brought up that way and had no experience. Guns make me uncomfortable. However, I went hunting with him once and was given lessons on how to handle the gun. Lovely day, the dog enjoyed the hike and we didn't see any birds, but that was the only and last time I went. I found I still was uncomfortable with the gun and found I disliked the thought of hunting. However, I never once stood in his way to go hunting and never disallowed him his purchase of a gun when he wanted it. I even allowed the guns in the house as long as they were properly secured and locked away. He respected my feelings enough to buy a proper door and lock for our furnace room and put his guns there.

You have to give as well as take. And, it looks like your wife is doing the giving. And, as it's harder to give when the person dislikes or is uncomfortable with the gift, I think that deserves more respect than whining about the dislike.

[wepollard]

The first time my wife saw me in a kilt her response was "your crazy, are you out of your mind". But after I had worn a kilt for several days she learned to accept the kilt. I wear a kilt everywhere I go and she goes with me no fuss no bother.

[B R Gordon]

You need to join our support group "My Significant Other Hates Kilts". It won't give you any additional answers but you'll be in the company of others who have the same issues.