Kilted attire for attending a Wedding

[rollerboy_1979]

As an usher you should actually be in a tux. You are a member of the wedding party, and if they are in tuxes you should be too. If they are not in tuxes the people paying for the wedding (usually the bride's family) will/should indicate what attire is appropriate for the wedding party.

On an aside - not indicting just curious - how is it that she's never seen her favorite uncle in person - the one who wears a kilt - kilted? Again just curious.

In Chicago, ushers are usually not a part of the wedding party, so they're not normally dressed in a tux like the groomsmen. I live over 2,000 miles away in California, and my niece has seen me in my kilt when she visited, but my sister has not. As I said, I'll go along with my sister's wishes.

[pastorsteve]

Maybe it's just a phrasing issue but the groomsmen ARE the ushers. That's how weddings are generally done world-wide. It's not an exception for Chicago. Thus as an usher or Groomsman- you are the wedding party.

From Wikipedia (not always perfect but correct here) A groomsman or usher is one of the male attendants to the bridegroom in a wedding ceremony. The term groomsman is more common in the United States, and usher is more common in the UK. Usually the bridegroom selects his closest friends and/or relatives to serve as a groomsmen, and it is considered an honor to be selected. From his groomsmen, the groom usually chooses one to serve as best man. The duties of the groomsmen are to help guests find their places before the ceremony and to participate in the wedding ceremony.

[MacMillan of Rathdown]

As an usher you should actually be in a tux. You are a member of the wedding party, and if they are in tuxes you should be too. If they are not in tuxes the people paying for the wedding (usually the bride's family) will/should indicate what attire is appropriate for the wedding party.

Actually, it is the responsibility of the groom to see that his attendants are properly dressed, and to pay for any special attire that may be required. The groom is also supposed to be responsible for the cost of the church and the officiant celebrating the marriage, as well as paying for the license most cities/states require. He is not required to bear the cost of floral arrangements, or musical entertainment. These items, like the reception that follows, are down to the bride's family.

[Bugbear]

I thought most weddings were daytime weddings... At what point in the day do the groom and his men switch from morning coat with striped pants and stroler coats to tuxedos?

[kennethrmc]

This is what I plan to wear to my daughter's wedding.

I am the officiant.

Wedding is 4 PM, and fairly formal.

I have to cinch up my tie a bit better, and I'll leave the sgian dubh at home as I'm in "clergy" mode.

Thoughts?

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[MacMillan of Rathdown]

I thought most weddings were daytime weddings... At what point in the day do the groom and his men switch from morning coat with striped pants and stroler coats to tuxedos?

It depends when the reception is to begin, not when it is supposed to end.

SO:
Morning wedding/Afternoon reception = Morning coat.
Afternoon wedding/Afternoon reception = Morning coat.
Afternoon wedding/Evening reception = Black tie.
Evening wedding/ Evening reception = White tie.

The groom and his attendants remain dressed as they were at the wedding ceremony. They do not change between church and reception.

Perhaps the best wedding I ever attended was in Ireland. The ceremony, with about twenty guests, took place in a private chapel at 11 o'clock, followed by a magnificent luncheon, which finished promptly at 3 o'clock. Once everyone was sufficiently rested we changed and headed into Dublin for a white tie bal d'honneur for 150 invited guests. The ball started promptly at 8 o'clock, there was a cold buffet at midnight, and carriages and chairs were called at 2 o'clock the next morning.

[pastorsteve]

I think you look great.

[Bugbear]

Thanks MacMillan of Rathdown, that makes sense.

[McMurdo]

This is what I plan to wear to my daughter's wedding.

I am the officiant.

Wedding is 4 PM, and fairly formal.

I have to cinch up my tie a bit better, and I'll leave the sgian dubh at home as I'm in "clergy" mode.

Thoughts?

Kenneth
I'd say if it is to be a Formal affair then I would say go for a White shirt and perhaps a Black Bow Tie. Other than that I think it's fine.

[MacMillan of Rathdown]

I would tend to agree with McMurdo re: the shirt and tie. Also, if you are ordained clergy, might not some form of "dog collar" be appropriate?