Fighting objections from the wife

[CelticSire]

If I may...

When I first broached the topic of buying my first kilt, my wife agreed (as she usually does) knowing that it was as a result of my 20+ year search trying to nail down my family heritage. I don't think she realized at the time the extent that this new facet of my interest was going to take. I spent many hours researching, a lot of it on this Forum, before pulling the trigger on a SWK. My newfound interest was becoming a source of friction when I first started wearing the kilt. In fact, in one discussion she used the term "obsession". I wouldn't say she was ever embarassed by my wearing a kilt, I think it was more of a concern of "Where is this going?" I sat down with her one night to discuss it (calmly). I explained to her that her family had a very well documented ancestry, knew exactly what their heritage was, and could trace their family back several generations into Sweden where her grandfather emigrated from. My side, however, only knew that we were "Irish", and that was it. That was why I had devoted so much time over the years, because I wanted to know where my family came from. I told my wife that I felt that my cultural heritage and ancestry was just as important to our daughters as her side was, and that my interest was in being able to proudly introduce them to their Scots-Irish heritage as well as their Swedish heritage. Once she understood the reasons behind my interest, she accepted it. Now, I'm not saying that it's true, but I have a suspicion that anytime a man who is in a long-term relationship suddenly develops a new interest, the partner is naturally going to wonder why, and what spurred it. And, in the case of kilts, there may be an unspoken twinge of "Is he suddenly becoming a cross-dresser?" It may seem silly to us, but it might be an underlying thought that she is uncomfortable asking, or even ackowledging. Discuss it with her, let her know that there is nothing to cause her alarm, and she may very well come around given time and patience. My wife does love the way I look when kilted, and even has purchased material in my Clan tartan to make her something to wear since she is Lamont "by the ring." Time and patience, my friend, time and patience.