My own "Said No!" story....

[Spartan]

I am really amazed when I hear some of these stories. As a clergyman I've officiated at dozens of weddings. I know how family members and "friends" can be interfering -- and frankly out of place. One of the things that I try to reinforce with the bride and groom is that the marriage service belongs to them. It needs to be THEIR service. Typically, the groom's family takes care of the rehearsal dinner, and the bride's family the reception. The bride and groom are the one's that should plan the marriage service itself the way they want it and the others butt out. Let the bride's parents plan the reception, and the groom's parents the rehearsal dinner. I wish it could all be that simple.

What is more amazing to me are parents who dictate to their grown children. It's a control issue. Sometimes you have to stop and ask, "Whose problem is this?" In this case it is really the father's problem. I think that you did the right thing. In the future if Mr McNeill doesn't like seeing you in your kilt, that's his problem.