Black Tie means a bow tie not a black coloured tie

[macwilkin]

And you misread my intent. The apparent judgemental voice was to make a point--that too many who wear formal attire who look down their noses at those of us who cannot justify the expenses involved in wearing the stuff. In general, I simply find that because I don't "fit in" for such formal occasions, I just don't go.

But aren't you being just as judgemental and making assumptions that everyone who wears formal attire thinks you don't "fit in"?

If you don't like formal attire, or can't justify purchasing it is one thing. I won't "look down my nose" at you over that -- but I do take exception at being judged as a snob just because I do wear formal attire.

T.