Formal Ambiguity

[robbiethepiper]

There is, but many of those hosting an event aren't aware of it.

When the level of formality of an event has been decided, the hosts should clearly state it on the invitation:

Formal: White Tie-- this means only white tie is to be worn;

or

Formal: White Tie (preferred), this indicates that black tie may be worn;

Formal: Black Tie-- gentlemen are advised that only dinner jackets (tuxedoes) are to be worn;

Formal: Black Tie (preferred), indicates that a dark business suit may be worn in lieu of a dinner jacket.

If any other standard of dress is acceptable, it will be stated on the invitation:

Black tie, Highland Attire (preferred) Unless you live in Scotland, or the invitation is to a specifically Scottish event (a "Tartan Ball" for example), then Highland attire should not be worn unless specified on the invitation.

Black tie, Uniform, decorations The same applies to military uniforms. Unless the invitation specifically states "uniform, decorations", then the wearing of a military uniform to a civilian event is as inappropriate as showing up in flip flops and an aloha shirt.

One other thing to note: "black tie" means just that, a black bow tie, not one of tartan or some gay colour. The eccentricity of a tartan cummerbund may be overlooked, but the gentleman sporting a tartan bow tie will be regarded as having modeled himself on Rodney Dangerfield, rather than the Duke of Rothsey.

Have long admired your superb knowledge of etiquette, so disagree on even one point with some trepidation, BUT.. I hold that is perfectly proper for a Scot to wear the kilted equivalent to any black tie event, be it held in Inverness, New Orleans or Timbuctoo. The kilt is my everyday attire, not some costume reserved for "theme nights". I dislike breaking the dress code through ignorance, so would be grateful for sources? I ask as an honest seeker of knowledge, not in order to challenge your undoubted expertise....