Denied

[Panache]

...If I am not a member of the wedding party proper, as a guest I will dress appropriately for the time and venue. This was true before I started wearing kilts all the time as well. I have never felt the need to ask the bride's (who has enough to worry about) or anyone else's permission to dress in my usual manner.

Because the folks who show up in the dress described above do not take into account that they might attract the attention of the other guests, rather than on the bride and groom, who should be the focus of the day. A gentleman, however, would take that into consideration and ask the bride and groom, since it is "their" day.

Zardoz and Todd,

I think that the difference in your views (i.e. contacting the bride or not about wearing a kilt to her wedding) has to do with how often you wear your kilt.

Todd is a snappy kilted dresser, but wears his highland attire for special occasions, while from what I surmise Zardoz (who is also a snappy dresser*) wears his on a more regular basis.

So for Todd to wear highland attire to a wedding as a guest would not be expected while for Zardoz it would.

Therefore it is appropriate for Todd to ask the bride just as it is appropriate for Zardoz not to worry about it.

I think this explains the differing views, neither is wrong.

If I was asked to be a guest of a wedding I wouldn't think to ask the bride if it was OK for me to wear Highland attire because any friend or relative would know I wear kilts on a regular basis.


Cheers

Jamie

* we will skip mentioning the flat caps

[macwilkin]

Zardoz and Todd,

I think that the difference in your views (i.e. contacting the bride or not about wearing a kilt to her wedding) has to do with how often you wear your kilt.

Todd is a snappy kilted dresser, but wears his highland attire for special occasions, while from what I surmise Zardoz (who is also a snappy dresser*) wears his on a more regular basis.

So for Todd to wear highland attire to a wedding as a guest would not be expected while for Zardoz it would.

Therefore it is appropriate for Todd to ask the bride just as it is appropriate for Zardoz not to worry about it.

I this explains the differing views, neither is wrong.

If I was asked to be a guest of a wedding I wouldn't think to ask the bride if it was OK for me to wear Highland attire because any friend or relative would know I wear kilts on a regular basis.


Cheers

Jamie

* we will skip mentioning the flat caps

I can see that, Jamie. Well said.

T.